The Dating Questions You have Always Wanted Answers To

Getting Dating Answers


We gathered some of the most asked questions on the web when in comes to relationship and dating. The great part is that the questions are formatted in such a way that they are easy to read and to understand. They are questions that most of us would have at some point heard asked, if not asked them ourselves. I will try to tackle them one at a time without making to post too long for anyone to follow. 

This is real stuff that we all encounter. The sort of questions you'd wish you could take down to your granny's for some timeless advice. Well, rest easy, good old Gary will play your granny just this once. 

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Should I send my ex an apology letter letting her know how sorry I am for the things I did to hurt her?


There are two reasons why someone would want to apologise to their ex after a break up. Well, there are many reasons that may be beneath the surface, but only two main ones. You are either going to do it for yourself or for her. There are the few that will think that they are doing it only for her or for both of you. Shut your mouth! Hahaha. Are we suddenly so noble that we think we ought to backtrack on the ones we have stepped over?

The simple answer to the question, regardless of reason is "yes" you should apologise to your ex, if you truly mean it. Only if you truly mean it. Heck, there are a few women I wish I could apologise to today, but will never ever have the chance to. 

I'd do it for her, so she can know that it wasn't her fault. Many victims blame themselves in the aftermath. It works a treat, just to make sure they know that, you, and only you are the piece of shit. Whether you have changed or not is irrelevant. She doesn't need to know that you miss her, that takes away from the apology. It switches the essence to a view that you are apologising in the hope of getting another chance. 

I'm all for getting second chances, but that should never be the main driving force for any apology. If it is, then you shouldn't apologise at all. 

The second reason for apologising is quite selfish, although it may benefit both parties. Some will apologise because they want to clean their conscience of the guilt that they have carried past the relationship. Do you though!


My boyfriend left his ex for me. We started dating 6 months ago, when he said he had left his girlfriend. He does not want to tell her about us. Why?


Dee-1, you know the guy who did that "Sallie May Back song?", yeah, that guy. He said something that I've held onto for a long time now. I quote, "I live by the words that a wise man once told me, if she cheated on her ex with you, and now she's next to you. Honey the next ex is you."

Your scenario could be slightly different here. In the sense that he left his ex for you. The only reason why he wouldn't want her to know about you two would be either he is cheating on one or both of you, or he is secretly hoping for a reunion with his ex. Either of the two reasons is pretty crap. 

You don't deserve to hold yourself ransom in such a situation. In his defence though, why does his ex need to know his business. She's in the past and should be left to remain there. Dragging her forward with you will only cause problems.


Would you date someone less educated than you?


I don't know the stats but I'd say 9/11 relationships involve one person who is more educated than the other. How do you define education though? Is it the pieces of papers one gets awarded at the end of a programme? Not everyone will attend those programmes, some of the smartest people don't have those papers to show. Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates, Richard Branson, Gary Venickic, might I go on?

Yeah I would date someone less or more educated than me. Relationships are about partnering. People have strengths that those pieces of papers would never be able to tell us about. 

My girlfriend wanted to join Tinder. So I have broken up with her. Have I done anything wrong?


Good on you, my son. I cannot understand why anyone who is in a relationship would want to join Tinder. Unless you are both into that, and create a "couple's" profile. 

Monogamy seems to be on the downward nowadays, so I'd make sure we are clear with your lady that this is only a two person shindig. If you can't agree on that very important point, you are better apart. What was her reason for joining Tinder anyway? I'd love hear a good reason for that. 


How can I tackle the parents of my girlfriend who are not accepting me?


The honest truth is some parents will never be approving of whom their son/daughter date. They either already have someone in mind or just don't think you are good enough. I'll propose a few methods. I can't promise that they'll work, but you've got to try. 

  1. Get your girl to find out why they don't approve of you and see if it is something that you can change. In some cases it may be an honest misunderstanding on their part. In which case, you can smooth it out.
  2. Make an effort to impress them. A few gifts here and there. Bringing their daughter back home in good time and decent shape. Asking for permission for things other guys wouldn't both to. For instance, if you will be out late, make it a point to be the one who calls them to apologise and promise to personally bring her back. 
  3. If nothing works, either break it off, be defiant or elope. At least start by threatening to, well, not you, the daughter to her parent.


My girlfriend threatens to kill herself if I breakup with her. Are there any legal actions I should take before ending the relationship?


That's a pretty easy fix in my books. Have a word with her parents. Unless they too are psychos. Legally, there isn't much that can be done in that case. If she threatens to harm if cause you any harm, then the slow wheels of justice may start to turn. 

Oh, is there a reason that she thinks you want to break up with her?

Should I forget about a guy I'm keen on who has a girlfriend and chats with me regularly?


If he has a girlfriend and still chats with you that's a cause for concern. It would depend on the nature of chatting that you two have. Is he just being friendly with you? Is he flirting and showing interest in you. 

If it's the former, chill out. Let the man be human. He doesn't have to be single to have female friends. If it is the latter, run. A man who won't respect his girl when he is with her will be unlikely to respect you either once you have taken her place, if you ever take her place. 

What is the coolest way to handle a man hitting on your girlfriend/wife?


I've encountered this a few times and handled it differently each time. It's one of those in the spur of the moment things for me. 

  1. While one guy was chatting to my lady, clearly trying his luck I just walked and stood in on the conversation. He notices soon and excuses himself. 
  2. My girl would usually come and wraps her arms around me from behind and be awkward, that seemed to work too. 
  3. There's the kissing option. Just asked the guy to excuse you and lean in for a kiss.
  4. My usual one is to simply ask that I get my lady back as soon as he is done talking with her. I'd then stand a meter or so away and wait. That works like a charm. 

My boyfriend said he wants a break but unfriended me on social media. I texted him the next day & he left me on read and blocked me. Should I leave?


It's pretty immature in his part. On your part as well, if the man asked for a damn break, give him a damn break. If you keep hounding him this way after he's asked for a break, there may be a reason he wants some time out. He needs space to breathe. Learn to be happy alone, without needing constant companionship or acknowledgement. 


My girlfriend is asking me to choose between my startup and her. What should I do?


Chances are one of the two will not work out. If your relationship works out, your startup will have to take a backseat, which will kill it as well.

I am not the most exemplary human in these cases, but it'd be the startup that stays for me. You want a woman who will be able to support you and understand while you chase your dreams. All the best with the startup. 

You may of course be in love and be torn in your decision. There is a saying, you can always get women when you have money, but you cannot always get money when you have women. Ponder on it.

My boyfriend does not like to see me more than a week per month. Is that normal?


I guess it'll depend on what you guys do when you see each other so often. If it's purely sexual, I'd need some days off. It's a scary feeling to let one thing take so much of your time, even if it is a person that you adore.

If you guys hang out and have fun, then I'd certainly be up for seeing you more than one week a month. What it comes down to is this, is he your friend? Or merely a lover? If he's a friend and considers you to be his friend then seeing you often won't bother him. Our lovers are more restrictive, we want to breathe ever so often, that will mean some time away from their physical presence. It's hard enough being smothered over the phone, for some man. 


Why don't guys pursue women anymore?


I've already done an entire post to answer this one, and am sure you will be able to find it here:
http://relationshipsexpert.blogspot.com/2017/07/why-dont-guys-pursue-women-anymore.html
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