Can I date someone of a different religion?

I was raised in a Christian home, in a Christian country and as such I would generally meet Christian women. Therefore I have mostly dated Christians. As I have grown older and travelled to various parts of the world, I have met some truly remarkable women. They have been from other parts of the world, and of different religions to me, in some cases. I therefore found myself faced with a conundrum that I had previously never had to deal with. I am Christian, can I date a woman who is not? Hmmm. Well, I have dated a Muslim and have been affiliated with a Hindu girl as well. So my response to this question has been formulated from these experiences.

Attraction

We cannot choose who we are attracted to. In the last couple of years I have been fighting that notion, which is probably one of the reasons why I have not been as keen in dating. I have been trying to understand why it is that while others go on about women’s bums and boobs I am more drawn to the smiles. Don’t get me wrong, I love boobs, I think they are a phenomenal creation. However, that is not the first thing that grabs my attention about a woman. It’s her smile. Religion has women dressing in all sort of different ways, but I find them all attractive because what I look for is always in eye shot. They can all draw my attention, regardless of their religion.

Home maker

As I have grown older I have begun to realise how amazing Muslim women are as home makers. Some will say “they are oppressed”, which I can agree with in some instances, but not in all. One of the few that I call friends is a Muslim man. His wife is treated like a queen. I am looking for a person to build a home with, and not all females are suitable for this role.

Key differences

When I dated a Muslim girl, she would always check whether I had eaten pork before kissing me. She’d always remark on how disgusting she thought pork was. To this I’d always wonder, how the kissing fits in with her religious views. I guess, I was also on the wrong side of my own religion.

Conclusion

What it boils down to is a question of what you are willing to sacrifice. It can be a very complicated affair, choose wisely. Do not let anyone dictate to you, who you are to or not to love. Love is universal. What are your thoughts? If you are going through a similar situation, let’s talk. If you have questions or comments feel free to raise them.

How to show her love

There is a lot of material on what women can do to please men. How to dress for your man. How to make him happy. How to have sex with him and all sorts of things. Growing up, I never really felt that I needed to do anything in my life to please women. Today most men only please women with the intention of getting sex in return. It is widely acceptable, but not really spoken. Until you can pure love to a woman, you are not a man. I feel I became a men, when I finally opened up and loved someone else. I have redefined the word love. Love for me is "giving everything, and expecting nothing back in return". If you love in order to be loved, then that is not love, you're trading. Love is not a trade, it's a sacrifice. I am not saying that everyone is easy to love. It is not meant to be easy, you are an individual, and self is your main focus. To be able to shift that focus from self to another person is not something to be taken lightly. Here are a few ways to love her

If your words are the only way that she knows you love her, you have got to check yourself. You are falling short. Your words should come as an affirmations of actions that already show that you love her. When you say you love her, it should not be a surprise, she should already know it. Your actions should bear testimony of this love.

This is very simple but very important. If you see a future with her, invest in her. When you invest in her, you are investing in your future. You are investing in the mother of your kids. You are investing in your family. If you do not want to invest in her, then please don’t waste her time. Leave her. When I say “invest”, I don’t necessarily mean financially. Some women just need some encouragement that they did not get elsewhere. She could be better if she knew that she could be. Invest your time in listening to her. Women need that release. To be able to pour their hearts out is therapeutic.

The only woman I ever wanted to marry was the one woman I truly believed in. For other reasons, it did not work out. My belief in her propelled her. Your belief in your woman will propel her. If you believe in her, it will make it easier for you to invest in her. I have found in my experience most women are hurt. They are carrying a lot of pain in their hearts. Pain from parents and past relationships. She needs to know that you believe in her. As a keen business person, I have always been excited by the prospect of my woman being in business. If she has great ideas, help her build them. If the ideas are not as good, encourage her and help her improve those ideas. Do not just speak her down.

There are so many ways to love. These are just a few of the ways. How do you show you love? Drop a comment below. If you have questions, use our ask me page.